Yay, friends
I’ve been thinking lately about how there are different dynamics in friendships you have with people.
With some, if you don’t see them often enough, they become upset and immediately stop considering you a friend of theirs. (Although often you are unaware that this has happened and you may continue to try to maintain contact with them in the same way). When you get together with them (finally), they are somewhat passive-aggressive and mildly annoying.
There’s the type of dynamic where you don’t see each other for months or a year, and when you get together with them you spend your whole time talking about what you have done for the past year. It’s slightly awkward at first, but your rare time together is spent trying to catch a glimpse of what the other’s life has been like for the time you haven’t seen them. This friend you don’t see often, but you keep in touch and get together for coffee maybe twice a year.
Then there’s the friend that you could have not seen or spoken to for months or a year, but when you get together with them it’s like not a day has passed or gone by. You still do menial things when you’re with them (you don’t feel the need to invite them for coffee - you can just hang out and do whatever you feel like doing - like laundry or running errands or shopping), and you don’t feel the need to really rehash your entire year with them because you feel like they might know all this already (even if they don’t, and you have to catch them up anyway so that your stories make sense).
There’s the friend you keep in touch with often, calling, talking to on the phone, keeping updated on every minute detail of their lives. When you’re out of town you call them (or Skype, much cheaper, win for everyone), and when you travel you write them emails, and when you are in the same city you spend nearly every waking moment together.
I like all these types of friends and I’m glad there are people in my life that I can be with in all sorts of different ways.
