1. "

    This is how you lose her.

    You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

    You must remember when she forgets.

    You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

    She remembers when you forget.

    You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

    You must learn her.

    You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

    You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

    And, this is how you keep her

    — This Is How You Lose Her || Junot Diaz   (via awelltraveledwoman)

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  2. "And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good."
    — John Steinbeck, East of Eden  (via thatkindofwoman)

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  3. "In a relationship, you need somebody who’s going to call you out, not somebody who’s going to let everything slide. You need somebody who doesn’t want to live without you, but can. Not somebody that is dependent, but somebody who is stronger with you. A relationship is two people, not one."
    — Unknown  (via thatkindofwoman)

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  4. "I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side."
    — Maya Angelou    (via thatkindofwoman)

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  5. "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."
    — Kurt Cobain  (via thatkindofwoman)

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  6. "I’m still learning to love the parts of me that no one claps for."
    — Rudy Francisco  (via thatkindofwoman)

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  7. "The task of therapy is not to eliminate suffering but to give a voice to it, to find a form in which it can be expressed. Expression is itself transformation; this is the message that art brings. The therapist then would be an artist of the soul, working with sufferers to enable them to find the proper container for their pain, the form in which it would be embodied."
    — Stephen K. Levine (via psychotherapy)

  8. "What is home? My favorite definition is “a safe place,” a place where one is free from attack, a place where one experiences secure relationships and affirmation. It’s a place where people share and understand each other. Its relationships are nurturing. The people in it do not need to be perfect; instead, they need to be honest, loving, supportive, recognizing a common humanity that makes all of us vulnerable."
  9. apartmenttherapy:

    5 Decadent Blankets I’m Dying to Cozy Up With: http://on.apttherapy.com/mbafQ9

  10. azizisbored:

    I went on Letterman and talked about being a feminist.

    (Source: youtube.com)